1. Research the area you will be moving to.Thinking back on my family's first PCS, I was excited! I was 18 with a new husband and infant, I was going to leave a lot of my family and friends behind, move to a new state, and face new challenges as a military family. Who am I kidding? I was mostly scared and I made the mistake of not researching the area we were moving to. In today's internet culture it is easier than ever to find all kinds of information about the areas you'll be moving to. A trend for military installations is to have an "underground" message board where spouses can talk about anything they want. These sites are excellent sources for business reviews, community resources, and neighborhood information. A word of caution: Most (if not all) of these sites are viewable by the public. There are few privacy options, so use common sense when posting. Unfortunately, these sites can also be quite dramatic, and depending on the site's moderators, you might find some questionable language and content. Try searching (name of installation)underground. Some other sources of information are:
- the installation's main website, MWR page, and Facebook page
- post housing's website and Facebook page
- "Mommy" sites like cafemom
- if you have unit information, see if they have a Facebook page
2. Know your housing options.If this is your first move, it's probably not a good idea to jump right into a mortgage. Of course, this is a personal choice, but make sure you do plenty of research before buying. Check out this article on military.com about buying vs. renting. If your Soldier's orders say that the family is allowed to come too, then you are authorized to live in on post housing. Most (if not all) military housing is now privatized. This means that the military no longer oversees the housing on post. Private companies are now in charge of leases and maintenance. Visit your new installation's housing website to find information on housing eligibility (which neighborhoods and how large of a house you are permitted) and waitlist times. Some posts allow you to get on the list before you arrive as long as you have orders. Others require you to wait until you get there. This can be unnerving when you see a waitlist of 3-6 months or longer. It's important to know that because families are constantly moving, the wait times can be a lot shorter than the estimate, sometimes taking as little as one week after arrival. Consult your housing office for their advice on interim housing options. Month to month leases off post offer flexibility so that when a home on post is available, you won't have to break a lease (and pay a fine) to move. These can be more expensive than year or six month long leases. A word on temporary lodging: Some posts will only reimburse your lodging expenses upon arrival if you stay in the on post hotel. There are exceptions to the rule for pets and statements of unavailability. This policy can vary, so call post lodging to be sure.
3. The military will move your household goods.Your Soldier should visit the transportation office to schedule pickup for your household goods and vehicle (if you plan to fly). A member of the team will make an appointment to assess how much will be moved. You'll then get a moving date. Movers will arrive and box up all of your possessions, so if there are things you'll need during the move, put them in a separate place, such as a closet, that is clearly marked as untouchable. There will be a lot of paperwork involved so that each item or box is tracked and ends up in your new destination. Sometimes, the moving company will arrive before you do. In these cases, the company will store your goods until you arrive then bring them to you when you are ready to move into your new home. If you end up needing to move off post while waiting for on post housing, the movers will bring your stuff there, then come back out to pack you up and move you on post when housing is available. This policy can vary from post to post, and with the sequestration we are experiencing now, big changes could be in our future. The best sources of current information are the transportation office and the housing office. Here's a brief list of items you might want to keep off the moving truck to make your PCS more comfortable. Depending on how much space you have during the move, you might consider doing a partial DITY move. (This is where you move some of your belongings and get paid to do so. Consult the transportation office for details.)
- air mattress, pump, sheets/blankets
- paper plates, cups, napkins
- cooking utensils, pot/pan
- cleaning supplies (most of which cannot be transported on the moving truck anyway)
- towels and clothes
- important documents
- electronics and chargers
- a few toys and things to keep the kids occupied on the trip
4. Plan some fun along the way.PCS trips can be stressful and drawn out. Be flexible with your lodging plans along the way, and try to plan some fun as you go. I'm not talking about hitting every theme park from point A to B or trekking 500 miles out of the way to see Texas' biggest ball of string. Picnics at rest areas are easy things to do that allow your kids to get out of the car and run around a bit. Pack some bubbles or a ball for a good diversion. Many rest areas have historic markers and offer you a chance to expose your kids to some interesting facts about the state you're in. When mapping your route, see if there are any local attractions or noteworthy eateries along the way. You'd be amazed by all the great things this country has to offer within 5 miles of the interstate.
5. Plan to connect with your new FRG.See my post here about the value of the FRG (Family Readiness Group). If you are a new spouse, you will undoubtedly have questions about your new home that websites just can't answer. When your Soldier gets signed into his new unit, ask him/her to give your email address and/or phone number to the FRSA (Family Readiness Support Assistant). The FRSA should contact you and welcome you into the Battalion or Brigade (depending on the level he or she is located at) and give your information to your company FRG leader. Some units are painfully low on volunteerism, so it might take a little while for them to contact you. Be patient, but plan to reach out if you haven't heard anything by the end of the first month. Your FRG was established to provide you with training and information that will prove helpful when your Soldier deploys. In addition to the Readiness aspect, they are a great way to make lasting friendships and learn more about your new community. It's important to remember that the quality of your friendships is more important than the quantity of your friendships. You are not expected to be best friends with every spouse in the FRG, but everyone is expected to respect one another.
If you're a seasoned traveler or can offer advice for PCSing overseas, please leave a comment or message me. I'm always looking for new material, and as I don't have experience with every facet of Army life (and other branches), I welcome your submissions!